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The Secret to Extragavant Joy

The Secret to Extragavant Joy

My favorite stories to share are always laced with humor. My new book, “Rhinestones on my Flip-Flops,” is filled with funny original stories that will make you laugh, possibly snort, and experience extravagant joy. Click HERE for pre-order info. Many of the stories in the book remind me of one of my favorite (I can’t help myself) “tails.”


I met Miss Addie at one of my first visits to Harmony United Methodist Church. She was super friendly but there was something about her that made her extra-special. I soon discovered her “secret.”

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Little Town of Johnston has Magic Moments

Life offers many magical moments that can be missed. As annoying as it can be, signs requesting “Turn off your cell phone,” can force us to experience more entertainment than expected.

In my new book to be released in September, “Rhinestones on my Flip-Flops,” I highlight the frustration of Martha who was so busy getting ready for Jesus that she missed listening to his teaching. Her sister, Mary, soaked it in, but Martha was distracted and became a stressed-out, mess-up. Hummmmm, know anyone like this? Guilty.


My daddy loved to sit and visit. He always said that people are the best entertainment. Daddy was not much of a talker, but he was a great observer. Even if the technology was available, there is no way my daddy would stare at a smartphone; he experienced many magical moments even in our little town of Johnston.

Posted in country, growing up, perspective by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda – Excuses and Regretted Words

Recently, I celebrated a birthday.  For some reason, I have been hearing the words: shoulda, woulda, coulda. Maybe I am paying extra attention to these words since I am older and hopefully wiser. I thought it would be interesting to dissect the meaning since these are excuses and regretted words.
WOULDA and COULDA– I think these are excuse words.  Here is an example, “I woulda/coulda BUT__________________.”  Another way to say the same thing with personal accountability is,  “I could have done more.”
SHOULDA- This word is officially added to my list of things never to say. I have a plaque in my house that reads, “Destined to be an old woman with no regrets.”
 SHOULDA is a regret word. I have heard unhappy people use this word often. They can’t fix “it” or try something different because it is too late.
To avoid the SHOULDA moments, look ahead. Ask yourself what life will look like in 20 years. If you see yourself unhappy and full of regrets, change your course.
My mother said something years ago that made me laugh. I told her that some individuals  are encouraged to write a letter to deceased people who still “haunt” them with unresolved issues or regrets. Her response was typical “all Eleanor.”  She paused, looked at me, tilted her head and said, “How do you address the letter, GRAVE?”
This suggestion made no sense to her which explains why she lived to be in her eighties and died peacefully. I witnessed how she handled a heart-breaking event with love, grace and forgiveness.
 So, watch out for the woulda, shoulda, coulda moments in life. Strive to have NO regrets and live with greater self-respect.

Posted in attitude, Southern Humor by Jane Jenkins Herlong.

The Good, the Bad and the Funny

 My friend, Penny and I had one of those special girlfriend visits. We both needed to lean on each other for wisdom, good insight and prayer.

As Penny spoke to me, I began to realize something in her and in myself that speaks volumes about our personalities. Penny is an amazing person who has the gift of sensitivity. Penny was being sensitive to a need in another’s life that became overwhelming and consuming. I made the comment, “Penny, your sensitivity is your good/bad.” In other words, her ability to be sensitive to the needs of others can also become a burden, if you let it.

Where does funny come into the picture? Can you laugh when your good and bad collide? I love to tell this funny story during my presentations when Penny’s good/bad collided but she found the funny.shoe with play button

Posted in attitude, Southern Humor by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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Suzie Humphreys is a WOW-Woman of Wisdom


Do you have WOW in your life? Are you a WOW?

I was delighted to hear Suzie Humphreys, one of my WOW (Women of Wisdom), speak last week at the National Speakers Association’s Annual meeting. My new book, “Rhinestones on my Flip-Flops” (now available for pre-orders), has a section dedicated to WOW.

I love Suzie’s style of speaking; her wit and wisdom are as sharp as a Texas boot spur. Along with her hilarious humor, Suzie throws in a zinger or two just at the right time. In her amazing presentation, she gave us three major bullet points for life and speaking:

Suzie Humphreys is a WOW-Woman of Wisdom-Love yourself
-Share your best self
-Laugh at yourself

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Spanx for the Memories


Miss South Carolina week arrived!  I dragged the old pageant gown box from underneath my bed, blew off the dust and proceeded to pray that some garment with rhinestones fit. Outfit after outfit, the mirror was not too kind. UGGH. Finding the perfect outfit and dealing with weight issues is one flip-flop women do not like! My new book, “Rhinestones on My Flip-Flops”,  being released in September, addresses weight issues that women face, spanx and much more!

Spanx to the rescue! I have a whole drawer filled with them; high waist, low waist, long boys, bra Spanx, non-bra, body suit Spanx, and the list goes on.

As an aging beauty queen it truly is a marvelous way to recapture somewhat of your pageant weight and revisit special memories.

Yes, as I walked the runway at the Township Auditorium with my Miss SC sistahs, we each remembered our moment of being crowned Miss South Carolina. Spanx for the memories…. 

Posted in aging, beauty queens, storytelling by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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How to Experience Extragavant Joy


Bree Boyce Marsh chooses JOY! My buddy and Miss South Carolina “sistah” made a decision several years ago that changed her life in a dramatic way.

It is Miss South Carolina week and in honor of this exciting event and the theme of my new book, “Rhinestones on My Flip-Flops,” I thought of Bree Boyce Marsh. Bree possesses many of the same qualities I highlight in a chapter in my book entitled, “Fearless and Fabulous Esther.”  Like queen Esther, Bree is brave, bold and beautiful. But it did not start out that way.

Bree was 17 years old and weighed in at 234. She was unhappy and traveling down a road with an unhealthy end. She made a dramatic decision. Bree began an extensive fitness program that turned this young woman into a new person. She lost 114 lbs. and went from a size 18 to a size 4. You see, Bree chose a challenging path but her journey led to extravagant JOY.

Posted in beauty queens, inspiration, Miss South Carolina by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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Even Kitty “Jenks” Has Flip-Flops


“Momma,” said Caroline. I found a sweet kitty in a flower pot in front of Daddy’s office. She is hurt. “Well, Caroline,” I said. “Take her to the Vet.”

Poor, little kitty had a broken leg. After 3 weeks of kitty R&R, she was running, jumping and playing. The once frightened and traumatized kitty is slowly making our home, her home.

We named her Jenks and she is a cutie but she also has “street smarts”. Jenks has no fear and rules in a large way to be such a little kitty. Even Milo, Caroline’s monster kitty runs from Jenks. Yes, her dog, Maggie does, too.

Can we agree that Jenks has had to survive some flip-flops? I think so.

It was an interesting moment when Jenks met our yard dog, Hobie. Hobie is the king of the yard and even follows Thomas to church AND arrives before me.

Posted in attitude, encouragement, inspiration by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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Yep, She called Me Ugly; A Flip-Flop Faux-Pas

 

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In honor of my new book, “Rhinestones on my Flip-Flops,” I remembered a funny flip-flop story that occurred a few days after I was crowned Miss South Carolina-enjoy!

 

 


I was riding high after being crowned Miss South Carolina on Saturday night. Now it was time to prepare for the Miss America Pageant.

Posted in beauty pageants, beauty queens, humor, Miss South Carolina, sense of humor by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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Gullah and Johns Island – Remembering My Past

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When the folks at Elysian Magazine asked if I knew any Charleston chefs, I said “Well, I know a fabulous Lowcountry Gullah cook who has been cooking for Johns Island’s Rural Mission for over 30 years.” The next thing you know, I am calling Doris Sease (daughter of my beloved Tootsie) and arranging a photo shoot on our property on Johns Island.  The magazine just came out this week entitled, Continuing a Legacy.  Be sure to pick up a copy of Elysian Magazine and read this wonderful article.

 

 

 

Writer, Abby Derring and photographer, Josh Norris captured the essence of Doris’ unnamed (1)passion for community work, church and cooking.

The article included the historic Moving Star Hall where members “sang with their whole body.” Tootsie was a member of the Moving Star Hall Singers; a group proclaimed as the ‘bearers of the oldest layer of Afro-American cultural expression in America’. I remember when Tootsie performed at the Smithsonian and in other prestigious places across the county. Doris began cooking when Tootsie began touring.

Posted in Charleston, country, Gullah, Johns Island by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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