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Would a Beauty Queen Dare Milk a Cow in a Beauty Pageant?

Booking Signing at Barnes and Noble in Augusta, GA January 27, Augusta Mall at 2 PM.

I heard this story and it quickly became one of my favorites to share from the platform. First of all, it is about a bold, beauty queen wanna-be. If you click on the video, it’s only 4.5 minutes, and you will hear funny moments plus great advice for the coming new year.

Here is my take of the story-

Challenge yourself! Talking to yourself negatively or listening to those who define you in a negative way, can be crippling. Give it a go and enjoy the possibilities!

Become really good at what you do. Malcolm Gladwell writes that ten thousand hours is the magic number of greatness. Well, that’s lots of milk when it comes to this story!

Someone will move your bucket, too. Bless her heart, she did everything correct but someone mooved (can’t help myself) her bucket.

Yep, spilled milk happens. Now, here is the question…when someone moves your bucket, will you quit and cry over spilled milk or try it again?

Enjoy the video and share with someone who needs a laugh and encouragement to milk life for all its worth. 

Posted in attitude, inspiration, Southern Humor by Jane Jenkins Herlong.

Stop Being So Trashy; Read She Let GO!

Can You Let Go?

My knees buckled when I read this poem by Reverend Safire Rose entitled, She Let Go. This message is so simple but we make “letting go” so complex. Seriously, take time to read this poem and share it with others.

She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.

She let go of the fear. She let go of the judgments. She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her. She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.

She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a book on how to let go. She didn’t search the scriptures. She just let go. She let go of all of the memories that held her back. She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward. She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.

Posted in attitude, inspiration, Southern Humor by Jane Jenkins Herlong.

Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda – Excuses and Regretted Words

Recently, I celebrated a birthday.  For some reason, I have been hearing the words: shoulda, woulda, coulda. Maybe I am paying extra attention to these words since I am older and hopefully wiser. I thought it would be interesting to dissect the meaning since these are excuses and regretted words.
WOULDA and COULDA– I think these are excuse words.  Here is an example, “I woulda/coulda BUT__________________.”  Another way to say the same thing with personal accountability is,  “I could have done more.”
SHOULDA- This word is officially added to my list of things never to say. I have a plaque in my house that reads, “Destined to be an old woman with no regrets.”
 SHOULDA is a regret word. I have heard unhappy people use this word often. They can’t fix “it” or try something different because it is too late.
To avoid the SHOULDA moments, look ahead. Ask yourself what life will look like in 20 years. If you see yourself unhappy and full of regrets, change your course.
My mother said something years ago that made me laugh. I told her that some individuals  are encouraged to write a letter to deceased people who still “haunt” them with unresolved issues or regrets. Her response was typical “all Eleanor.”  She paused, looked at me, tilted her head and said, “How do you address the letter, GRAVE?”
This suggestion made no sense to her which explains why she lived to be in her eighties and died peacefully. I witnessed how she handled a heart-breaking event with love, grace and forgiveness.
 So, watch out for the woulda, shoulda, coulda moments in life. Strive to have NO regrets and live with greater self-respect.

Posted in attitude, Southern Humor by Jane Jenkins Herlong.

The Good, the Bad and the Funny

 My friend, Penny and I had one of those special girlfriend visits. We both needed to lean on each other for wisdom, good insight and prayer.

As Penny spoke to me, I began to realize something in her and in myself that speaks volumes about our personalities. Penny is an amazing person who has the gift of sensitivity. Penny was being sensitive to a need in another’s life that became overwhelming and consuming. I made the comment, “Penny, your sensitivity is your good/bad.” In other words, her ability to be sensitive to the needs of others can also become a burden, if you let it.

Where does funny come into the picture? Can you laugh when your good and bad collide? I love to tell this funny story during my presentations when Penny’s good/bad collided but she found the funny.shoe with play button

Posted in attitude, Southern Humor by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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Suzie Humphreys is a WOW-Woman of Wisdom


Do you have WOW in your life? Are you a WOW?

I was delighted to hear Suzie Humphreys, one of my WOW (Women of Wisdom), speak last week at the National Speakers Association’s Annual meeting. My new book, “Rhinestones on my Flip-Flops” (now available for pre-orders), has a section dedicated to WOW.

I love Suzie’s style of speaking; her wit and wisdom are as sharp as a Texas boot spur. Along with her hilarious humor, Suzie throws in a zinger or two just at the right time. In her amazing presentation, she gave us three major bullet points for life and speaking:

Suzie Humphreys is a WOW-Woman of Wisdom-Love yourself
-Share your best self
-Laugh at yourself

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How to Experience Extragavant Joy


Bree Boyce Marsh chooses JOY! My buddy and Miss South Carolina “sistah” made a decision several years ago that changed her life in a dramatic way.

It is Miss South Carolina week and in honor of this exciting event and the theme of my new book, “Rhinestones on My Flip-Flops,” I thought of Bree Boyce Marsh. Bree possesses many of the same qualities I highlight in a chapter in my book entitled, “Fearless and Fabulous Esther.”  Like queen Esther, Bree is brave, bold and beautiful. But it did not start out that way.

Bree was 17 years old and weighed in at 234. She was unhappy and traveling down a road with an unhealthy end. She made a dramatic decision. Bree began an extensive fitness program that turned this young woman into a new person. She lost 114 lbs. and went from a size 18 to a size 4. You see, Bree chose a challenging path but her journey led to extravagant JOY.

Posted in beauty queens, inspiration, Miss South Carolina by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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Even Kitty “Jenks” Has Flip-Flops


“Momma,” said Caroline. I found a sweet kitty in a flower pot in front of Daddy’s office. She is hurt. “Well, Caroline,” I said. “Take her to the Vet.”

Poor, little kitty had a broken leg. After 3 weeks of kitty R&R, she was running, jumping and playing. The once frightened and traumatized kitty is slowly making our home, her home.

We named her Jenks and she is a cutie but she also has “street smarts”. Jenks has no fear and rules in a large way to be such a little kitty. Even Milo, Caroline’s monster kitty runs from Jenks. Yes, her dog, Maggie does, too.

Can we agree that Jenks has had to survive some flip-flops? I think so.

It was an interesting moment when Jenks met our yard dog, Hobie. Hobie is the king of the yard and even follows Thomas to church AND arrives before me.

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And The Winner Is…

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I was new to the world of pageantry. Interview always grabbed my interest until my pageant coach (yes, they exist, especially in the South) asked me the unthinkable. “Jane,” he said. “Who should win this pageant?” My brain and mouth froze. Seeing the look on my face, my coach challenged me and asked, “Why are you here? Do you want to be the winner or not?”

I made the decision to be a winner…at life.

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Stupid Things That Busy People Do

“Is this Mrs. Herlong?’ Asked the stranger. “Yes, this is customer service for Neiman Marcus. One of our customer care associates received your return and when they opened the box, it was not the Joan Vass Poppy dress…it was a cell phone.” Busy people…

I only wished I could have been present when the Verizon Wireless people opened a similar box containing the Joan Vass dress….surprise! I am glad the female comedian in me is alive and well.

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Red, Ripe Tomatoes and the Eiffel Tower

MzDOmqgIt is tomato season on Johns Island.  I remember all of those hot summers I picked tomatoes to help my daddy with incidental expenses during my college years.  Here is an excerpt from my book, Bare Feet to High Heels, that reminds me of timeless life-lessons that helped me many years ago and still reminds me of simple success principles.

It’s hard to believe that leaning over picking tomatoes in a hot Johns Island tomato field eventually got me to the top of the Eiffel Tower. A long journey made simple by five principles—truths I must share.

This chapter will not make you laugh; it will make you think. Enjoy a bucket filled with vine-ripened, staked, irrigated, unculled down-home wisdom.

My journey to the top of the Eiffel Tower began in my own backyard. I started a wholesale tomato business that helped me to earn money for college in addition to teaching me timeless success principles. The long, hot hours I spent working in my Daddy’s tomato fields still have an impact on my life.

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