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The ISIS War is a Personal Reminder

Remember the counterculture era soul song from 1969 entitled, "War?” It was an anti-Vietnam War protest song and a timely reminder that no one likes war. However, there are times when a line must be drawn in the sand and enough is enough. America has been watching the brutality of ISIS and this group of terrorists crossed the line. It is time to take action. The ISIS War is a personal reminder.Remember the counterculture era soul song from 1969 entitled, “War?”   It was an anti-Vietnam War protest song and a timely reminder that no one likes war. However, there are times when a line must be drawn in the sand and enough is enough. America has been watching the brutality of  ISIS and this group of terrorists crossed the line.  It is time to take action. The ISIS War is a personal reminder of our own relationships.

Have you ever had to take a stand?  Is it easier to sit back and hope IT goes away? Many times not taking a stand in the short term can be more costly long term.  Have you ever encountered problems that require swift and decisive action? How do you respond when you are attacked?  Of course, handling personal relationships is much different than dealing with global conflict.  But the questions spawned are thought provoking.  This is one of the reasons I wrote my book, “Bury Me with My Pearls.”  Although the book is very funny, I tackled a difficult time in my life and addressed it in a chapter entitled, “Dark Pearls.” I needed to learn how to handle difficult relationships beyond my control. Here is one my stories from the “Dark Pearl” chapter.

Posted in relationships, war, wisdom by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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Advice for Youth from “Diamond” Lillian Hughes

FFA Keynote Speakers “What advice for youth would you share?”  I posted this question on Facebook last week.  The answer is important to me since I am the closing speaking for Future Farmers of America October 31 LIVE on Rural 345 Direct TV. @NationalFFA My answer came the following day when I sat in First Baptist Church in Johnston, South Carolina at Lillian “Diamond” Hughes’ Celebration of Life Service. Yes, it was as genuine and sparkling as a pure-cut diamond…just like Lillian.  Her son, Bill shared great advice for youth from his mother, Lillian Hughes or as we called her, “Diamond Lil.”

“My mother taught me three things:  communicate with people in a manner that they can understand. She also taught me patience.” “Lastly,” Bill continued, “my mother taught me to have respect for others.”

Posted in wisdom, youth, youth advice by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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Confronting Negativity with Humor and Grace

POstcard-for-book-give-aways..We all have to deal with negative people, situations and unpleasant events.  We have all been affected by dysfunction.  The question is how do we function in dysfunction?  We have a choice;  act like Jerry Springer or C-Span. I choose to confront negativity with humor and grace .  You may even call it Amazing Grace.

A couple of things come to mind as I write this.  Trying times like these can be as confusing as a buzzard trying to eat an armadillo.  I actually saw this the other day.  Call is what you want- “possum on the half shell” but a couple of buzzards were totally confused on how to dine on the creature.  Armadillos are new to our areas so buzzards are learning about these armed critters. Many times we  are often not equipped to handle confusion and stress. We just want to run away but that only sets up the lesson to return and  be learned later.

Posted in funny, mother, motivation, stress, wisdom by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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Facebook? I’m so Old I Need a Ouija Board to Contact My Friends.

I love listening to the wisdom of my older friends.  There is a wealth of information and insight that only older folks understand.  In my new book, “Bury Me with My Pearls,” I talk about those precious pearls of wisdom.  Here is a good one:  “Facebook? I’m so old I need a Ouija Board to contact my friends.”  I love listening to the wisdom of my older friends. There is a wealth of information and insight that only older folks understand. In my new book, “Bury Me with My Pearls,” I talk about those precious pearls of wisdom. Here is a good one: “Facebook? I’m so old I need a Ouija Board to contact my friends.”

“A merry heart doeth good like a medicine……” “Sometimes,” says Roger Rabbit, “the only weapon we have is a laugh.” Amen. I have always heard that tragedy plus time equals comedy. My question is, “Can you find the humor?” No disrespect meant when horrible things happen but humor and levity can be healing. One of my dearest friends pre-maturely lost her husband to cancer. As we watched and waited in the hospital for the inevitable, she looked and me and said, “I just hope he does sit up in bed and yell out the name of his old girlfriend.” I knew, right then, she was going to be ok.

Posted in aging, attitude, Bury Me With My Pearls, Facebook, humor, laughter, life lessons, Southern, stress, teachings, wisdom by Jane Jenkins Herlong.