Jane Jenkins Herlong http://www.janeherlong.com Helping Folks Laugh More and Live Healthier Fri, 28 Jul 2017 18:26:05 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=4.8 49989632 Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda – Excuses and Regretted Words http://www.janeherlong.com/shoulda-woulda-coulda-excuses-and-regretted-words/ http://www.janeherlong.com/shoulda-woulda-coulda-excuses-and-regretted-words/#respond Fri, 28 Jul 2017 18:15:42 +0000 http://www.janeherlong.com/?p=4119 Recently, I celebrated a birthday.  For some reason, I have been hearing the words: shoulda, woulda, coulda. Maybe I am paying extra attention to these words since I am older and hopefully wiser. I thought it would be interesting to dissect the meaning since these are excuses and regretted words. WOULDA and COULDA– I think […]

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Recently, I celebrated a birthday.  For some reason, I have been hearing the words: shoulda, woulda, coulda. Maybe I am paying extra attention to these words since I am older and hopefully wiser. I thought it would be interesting to dissect the meaning since these are excuses and regretted words.
WOULDA and COULDA– I think these are excuse words.  Here is an example, “I woulda/coulda BUT__________________.”  Another way to say the same thing with personal accountability is,  “I could have done more.”
SHOULDA- This word is officially added to my list of things never to say. I have a plaque in my house that reads, “Destined to be an old woman with no regrets.”
 SHOULDA is a regret word. I have heard unhappy people use this word often. They can’t fix “it” or try something different because it is too late.
To avoid the SHOULDA moments, look ahead. Ask yourself what life will look like in 20 years. If you see yourself unhappy and full of regrets, change your course.
My mother said something years ago that made me laugh. I told her that some individuals  are encouraged to write a letter to deceased people who still “haunt” them with unresolved issues or regrets. Her response was typical “all Eleanor.”  She paused, looked at me, tilted her head and said, “How do you address the letter, GRAVE?”
This suggestion made no sense to her which explains why she lived to be in her eighties and died peacefully. I witnessed how she handled a heart-breaking event with love, grace and forgiveness.
 So, watch out for the woulda, shoulda, coulda moments in life. Strive to have NO regrets and live with greater self-respect.

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The Good, the Bad and the Funny http://www.janeherlong.com/good-bad-funny/ http://www.janeherlong.com/good-bad-funny/#respond Fri, 28 Jul 2017 18:12:44 +0000 http://www.janeherlong.com/?p=4125  My friend, Penny and I had one of those special girlfriend visits. We both needed to lean on each other for wisdom, good insight and prayer. As Penny spoke to me, I began to realize something in her and in myself that speaks volumes about our personalities. Penny is an amazing person who has the […]

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 My friend, Penny and I had one of those special girlfriend visits. We both needed to lean on each other for wisdom, good insight and prayer.

As Penny spoke to me, I began to realize something in her and in myself that speaks volumes about our personalities. Penny is an amazing person who has the gift of sensitivity. Penny was being sensitive to a need in another’s life that became overwhelming and consuming. I made the comment, “Penny, your sensitivity is your good/bad.” In other words, her ability to be sensitive to the needs of others can also become a burden, if you let it.

Where does funny come into the picture? Can you laugh when your good and bad collide? I love to tell this funny story during my presentations when Penny’s good/bad collided but she found the funny.shoe with play button

 Penny and I decided to obtain our CWP (Concealed Weapons Permit). We both attended class and Penny, the great note taker, wrote down every word. We were given specific instructions on what to do if stopped by a police officer. Penny attends to detail like no one I have ever seen.

About a month after receiving our CWP, Penny called. “Jane, I got pulled in Bamberg for speeding.” “Well,” Penny continued. “I did everything our instructor said to do when you get pulled. I wrote it down word for word. I kept my hands on the steering wheel till my knuckles turned white. I did not move since the officer knew I had a concealed weapon. You know, they cross-check your license.”

“Jane, it was awful!” Penny lamented. “He just kept knocking on my window yelling, “Lady, roll down your window!””

I just could not believe how insistent he was and was practically beating on my window!” “Finally, I said, “Officer, I cannot move to roll down my window. I have a concealed weapon!” “Yes, Mam,” replied the officer. “Where is it?”  Looking straight ahead, with white-knuckled hands, Penny replied, “At home.”

The bottom line is if you have a good quality, that can also become a bad quality, always try to find the funny. Pass on this story and share a good laugh!

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Suzie Humphreys is a WOW-Woman of Wisdom http://www.janeherlong.com/suzie-humphreys-wow-woman-wisdom/ http://www.janeherlong.com/suzie-humphreys-wow-woman-wisdom/#respond Tue, 25 Jul 2017 15:00:44 +0000 http://www.janeherlong.com/?p=4653 Do you have WOW in your life? Are you a WOW? I was delighted to hear Suzie Humphreys, one of my WOW (Women of Wisdom), speak last week at the National Speakers Association’s Annual meeting. My new book, “Rhinestones on my Flip-Flops” (now available for pre-orders), has a section dedicated to WOW. I love Suzie’s […]

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Do you have WOW in your life? Are you a WOW?

I was delighted to hear Suzie Humphreys, one of my WOW (Women of Wisdom), speak last week at the National Speakers Association’s Annual meeting. My new book, “Rhinestones on my Flip-Flops” (now available for pre-orders), has a section dedicated to WOW.

I love Suzie’s style of speaking; her wit and wisdom are as sharp as a Texas boot spur. Along with her hilarious humor, Suzie throws in a zinger or two just at the right time. In her amazing presentation, she gave us three major bullet points for life and speaking:

Suzie Humphreys is a WOW-Woman of Wisdom-Love yourself
-Share your best self
-Laugh at yourself

I witnessed firsthand how Suzie’s presentation made an impact on one particular audience member when we shared the platform several years ago. During her speech, Suzie said, “If you are going to be depressed, get into it. Call in sick, put on that old terrycloth robe with grape stains on it, and wear non-waterproof mascara on your eyelashes. Then cry. I mean really cry. Then think of more sad stuff and let that mascara run down your face. Top it off with looking in the mirror. In about two hours, you will decide that you are sick of all of this. Here is what to do next; get cleaned up, dressed up, and eat some Mexican food.”

Suzie acknowledged that depression can be a serious condition, but at the conclusion of her presentation, she was confronted by a woman who scolded her for making light of depression. Suzie listened sympathetically to this hurting woman whose husband abandoned her many years ago, but Suzie was also brave enough to comment, “You are angry at this man. Depression is simply anger turned inward. Do yourself a favor and forgive him.”

Suzie and I were greeted with a hug from that same, stressed woman who confronted Suzie the day earlier. For a moment, I did not recognize her. She was different. Her walk was straighter, her face brighter, and her personality charged. I told her the difference in her look was an amazing transformation. “I needed this,” was her response, “I needed to hear what you had to say. I am tired of being stressed-out and irritated.”

It was truly a “wow” moment from a WOW. Share this story with others who need a WOW lesson on forgiveness.


Thanks to the beautiful and dear Shawn Weatherly Harris for her review of my book.

 

“I love the way Jane weaves old-fashioned wisdom from her family and Biblical truths to shed new light on how they can be applied to modern-day real life issues! Jane adds a fresh voice to the eternal yearning for meaning and purpose we all carry in our souls. Her writing sets itself apart from most self-help books by sprinkling all the salt and life lesson’s for living a Christian life with so much humor. I never felt preached to or condemned.”

―Shawn Weatherly Harris, Miss Universe, Miss USA 1980, actress, mother and wife

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Spanx for the Memories http://www.janeherlong.com/spanx-for-the-memories/ http://www.janeherlong.com/spanx-for-the-memories/#respond Mon, 24 Jul 2017 15:00:22 +0000 http://www.janeherlong.com/?p=4647 Miss South Carolina week arrived!  I dragged the old pageant gown box from underneath my bed, blew off the dust and proceeded to pray that some garment with rhinestones fit. Outfit after outfit, the mirror was not too kind. UGGH. Finding the perfect outfit and dealing with weight issues is one flip-flop women do not […]

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Miss South Carolina week arrived!  I dragged the old pageant gown box from underneath my bed, blew off the dust and proceeded to pray that some garment with rhinestones fit. Outfit after outfit, the mirror was not too kind. UGGH. Finding the perfect outfit and dealing with weight issues is one flip-flop women do not like! My new book, “Rhinestones on My Flip-Flops”,  being released in September, addresses weight issues that women face, spanx and much more!

Spanx to the rescue! I have a whole drawer filled with them; high waist, low waist, long boys, bra Spanx, non-bra, body suit Spanx, and the list goes on.

As an aging beauty queen it truly is a marvelous way to recapture somewhat of your pageant weight and revisit special memories.

Yes, as I walked the runway at the Township Auditorium with my Miss SC sistahs, we each remembered our moment of being crowned Miss South Carolina. Spanx for the memories…. 

But as time goes by, this picture paints a different scene.  I saw this pile of undergarments in the ladies room. Apparently, one women decided that enough is enough. I can identify with this picture since after wearing my heavy-duty Spanx for four nights in a row, I peeled off the garment and stuffed it into my evening bag.  It was another special moment, I could finally breathe.


Share this post with women who wear Spanx; it will make them chuckle. We all love “special” moments; the joy of wear and the relief of removing Spanx.

 

 

 

 



I love this guy!!!!  Thank you Larry Winget for the wonderful review!

“Jane has that rare gift of being able to write funny. I laughed from the first page right up to the last. I found the book totally delightful and that’s not a word I often use!”

Larry Winget, New York Times bestselling author, and social commentator and television personality

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How to Experience Extragavant Joy http://www.janeherlong.com/experience-extragavant-joy/ http://www.janeherlong.com/experience-extragavant-joy/#respond Tue, 18 Jul 2017 15:00:40 +0000 http://www.janeherlong.com/?p=4629 Bree Boyce Marsh chooses JOY! My buddy and Miss South Carolina “sistah” made a decision several years ago that changed her life in a dramatic way. It is Miss South Carolina week and in honor of this exciting event and the theme of my new book, “Rhinestones on My Flip-Flops,” I thought of Bree Boyce Marsh. Bree […]

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Bree Boyce Marsh chooses JOY! My buddy and Miss South Carolina “sistah” made a decision several years ago that changed her life in a dramatic way.

It is Miss South Carolina week and in honor of this exciting event and the theme of my new book, “Rhinestones on My Flip-Flops,” I thought of Bree Boyce Marsh. Bree possesses many of the same qualities I highlight in a chapter in my book entitled, “Fearless and Fabulous Esther.”  Like queen Esther, Bree is brave, bold and beautiful. But it did not start out that way.

Bree was 17 years old and weighed in at 234. She was unhappy and traveling down a road with an unhealthy end. She made a dramatic decision. Bree began an extensive fitness program that turned this young woman into a new person. She lost 114 lbs. and went from a size 18 to a size 4. You see, Bree chose a challenging path but her journey led to extravagant JOY.

With her weight loss, Bree set another goal—competing in the Miss South Carolina Pageant. Oh, yes! On July 2, 2011 Bree Boyce was crowned Miss South Carolina. Then she was off Las Vegas to compete for one of the most coveted titles of all, Miss America. Bree was honored to be named in the TOP TEN; an honor that very few women will achieve.

(Click HERE to watch us chatting on stage at the Miss South Carolina Pageant.)

Here is the point that I share in my book,“Rhinestones on my Flip-Flops.”We all have choices in life; we can choose to be a flop, or flip our lives to find extravagant JOY! But it takes prayer, time and hard work. I love the drive and determination Bree lives and what compels others to challenge themselves to a higher purpose. You better believe that Bree is a fighter and no matter what path she chooses in life, she will find victory.

The most wonderful quality Bree possesses is that she is down-to-earth; her beauty is from the inside out. I had the privilege of watching her walk down another “runway/aisle” and gain a new title—Mrs. Andrew Marsh.

Just like Bree, you can CHOOSE Joy in the midst of life’s challenges and mess-up! Pass it on; you know who needs to read this!


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↓ WOW!  Thanks to Jason Hewlett for the wonderful comments about Rhinestones! 

“I feel like I’ve just stumbled into a woman’s party from the back porch and what I’m hearing won’t let me leave! I’m laughing, I’m learning, I’m reliving the flips and the flops in my own life and reconsidering how to be a better man. This book isn’t just for women, it can reshape the way any man thinks. Jane is a modern-day Lucille Ball meets Mark Twain. Not just hilarious, though she is, but full of insight, misdirection, and helping you see the right path. I love this book and can’t wait to laugh my way through it again and again.”

Jason Hewlett, CSP, CPAE, Hall of Fame Keynote Speaker, author, entertainer, and family man


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Even Kitty “Jenks” Has Flip-Flops http://www.janeherlong.com/even-kitty-jenks-flip-flops/ http://www.janeherlong.com/even-kitty-jenks-flip-flops/#respond Tue, 11 Jul 2017 15:00:26 +0000 http://www.janeherlong.com/?p=4627 “Momma,” said Caroline. I found a sweet kitty in a flower pot in front of Daddy’s office. She is hurt. “Well, Caroline,” I said. “Take her to the Vet.” Poor, little kitty had a broken leg. After 3 weeks of kitty R&R, she was running, jumping and playing. The once frightened and traumatized kitty is […]

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“Momma,” said Caroline. I found a sweet kitty in a flower pot in front of Daddy’s office. She is hurt. “Well, Caroline,” I said. “Take her to the Vet.”

Poor, little kitty had a broken leg. After 3 weeks of kitty R&R, she was running, jumping and playing. The once frightened and traumatized kitty is slowly making our home, her home.

We named her Jenks and she is a cutie but she also has “street smarts”. Jenks has no fear and rules in a large way to be such a little kitty. Even Milo, Caroline’s monster kitty runs from Jenks. Yes, her dog, Maggie does, too.

Can we agree that Jenks has had to survive some flip-flops? I think so.

It was an interesting moment when Jenks met our yard dog, Hobie. Hobie is the king of the yard and even follows Thomas to church AND arrives before me.

It was something to see—Jenks and Hobie had an eyeball to eyeball meeting. Jenks was on one side of the screen door and Hobie was on the other side. Hobie is a jealous dog and proceeded to let out a mean growl. Jenks held her ground, gave Hobie a “no-fear” look and “meowed’ in a tiny, faint noise. Hobie was shocked that Jenks did not retaliate and quietly retreated.

This story reminds me of the scripture in Proverbs, “A kind word turns away wrath.”

So the next time you are tempted to hiss or bark back, remember Jenks the kitty. Pass this story on to those who may need a reminder!


 

Nancy O’Dell, my beautiful Miss South Carolina sister and co-host of Entertainment Tonight, is so kind to share her testimonial about my book!

 

WOW! Thanks to Jason Hewlett for the wonderful comments about Rhinestones!
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“I feel like I’ve just stumbled into a woman’s party from the back porch and what I’m hearing won’t let me leave! I’m laughing, I’m learning, I’m reliving the flips and the flops in my own life and reconsidering how to be a better man. This book isn’t just for women, it can reshape the way any man thinks. Jane is a modern-day Lucille Ball meets Mark Twain. Not just hilarious, though she is, but full of insight, misdirection, and helping you see the right path. I love this book and can’t wait to laugh my way through it again and again.”

―Jason Hewlett, CSP, CPAE, Hall of Fame Keynote Speaker, author, entertainer, and family man


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Yep, She called Me Ugly; A Flip-Flop Faux-Pas http://www.janeherlong.com/called-ugly-flip-flop-faux-pas/ Tue, 13 Jun 2017 17:14:28 +0000 http://www.janeherlong.com/?p=4596     In honor of my new book, “Rhinestones on my Flip-Flops,” I remembered a funny flip-flop story that occurred a few days after I was crowned Miss South Carolina-enjoy!     I was riding high after being crowned Miss South Carolina on Saturday night. Now it was time to prepare for the Miss America […]

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In honor of my new book, “Rhinestones on my Flip-Flops,” I remembered a funny flip-flop story that occurred a few days after I was crowned Miss South Carolina-enjoy!

 

 


I was riding high after being crowned Miss South Carolina on Saturday night. Now it was time to prepare for the Miss America Pageant.

Sitting in the pageant shop my mind was spinning with thoughts of a myriad of things to check off my list before walking on that iconic Atlantic City stage. I sat down by an older woman as I waited to meet with the gown designer.
“My grand-baby is getting a new dress,” said the proud grandmother. “Oh, that is nice.” I replied. “Yes-sire-re, she is gonna be in another beauty pageant. She is the Cucumber Queen and will compete for the title of Miss Fresh Fruit and Vegetable.” (Believe it or not, this is a pageant in the state of South Carolina.) “How nice,” I said. “Yes, it is all we think about! We are so excited,” exclaimed the grandmother.
Then the conversation became very interesting. “Did you see that beauty pageant on Saturday night?” she asked. Well, it was obvious she did not recognize me and I did not want to embarrass the sweet lady. I answered truthfully because I actually had not seen the pageant. “No,” I answered politely. “WELL, that girl that won….she is ugly….and she can’t sing neither.”

Along with being somewhat surprised, I thought I would have some fun. I leaned over and tapped her on the leg, thinking surely she would find some humor with her faux-pas, “And she can’t cook, either!” I commented. “Yes,” stated the lady. “Just what I thought; she is pitiful!”
Suddenly the door opened; there stood the Cucumber Queen. She looked at me, gasped, then exclaimed, “Oh, Granny! You are sitting by Miss South Carolina! She won the pageant we watched on Saturday night!” The grandmother looked at me, wide-eyed and jaw-dropped, “Oh, Lawd.” She said. “I need to ask you something. You ain’t judging the Miss Fresh Fruit and Vegetable Pageant, are ya?”
How funny is that! Honestly, it’s all about having a good sense of humor and knowing how to act when communicate flops!
Share this funny flip-flop moment with others who need a good laugh and how to communicate when life flips!


WOW!  Thanks for the wonderful comments…

-We all work very hard and it was nice to have someone kickoff our conference with an upbeat, positive message to set the tone for the meeting.

-Superb speaker! Jane delivered alot of truth with her humor.


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Gullah and Johns Island – Remembering My Past http://www.janeherlong.com/gullah-johns-island-remembering-past/ Wed, 31 May 2017 12:38:49 +0000 http://www.janeherlong.com/?p=4587 When the folks at Elysian Magazine asked if I knew any Charleston chefs, I said “Well, I know a fabulous Lowcountry Gullah cook who has been cooking for Johns Island’s Rural Mission for over 30 years.” The next thing you know, I am calling Doris Sease (daughter of my beloved Tootsie) and arranging a photo shoot on our […]

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When the folks at Elysian Magazine asked if I knew any Charleston chefs, I said “Well, I know a fabulous Lowcountry Gullah cook who has been cooking for Johns Island’s Rural Mission for over 30 years.” The next thing you know, I am calling Doris Sease (daughter of my beloved Tootsie) and arranging a photo shoot on our property on Johns Island.  The magazine just came out this week entitled, Continuing a Legacy.  Be sure to pick up a copy of Elysian Magazine and read this wonderful article.

 

 

 

Writer, Abby Derring and photographer, Josh Norris captured the essence of Doris’ unnamed (1)passion for community work, church and cooking.

The article included the historic Moving Star Hall where members “sang with their whole body.” Tootsie was a member of the Moving Star Hall Singers; a group proclaimed as the ‘bearers of the oldest layer of Afro-American cultural expression in America’. I remember when Tootsie performed at the Smithsonian and in other prestigious places across the county. Doris began cooking when Tootsie began touring.

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I loved reading old island names like Janie Hunter, who is featured in the article since she told Gullah stories in her effort to keep traditions alive. This article combines what those of us remember and respect about the old Johns Island-community, church, and amazing Lowcountry cooking. Thank the Lord for Doris and her love of cooking and serving others-just like Tootsie.

To read more about Johns Island and its cultural roots, get a copy of Elysian Magazine.  You will be blessed!

 

 

 


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How to Drive Your Own Limo http://www.janeherlong.com/how-drive-limo/ Mon, 29 May 2017 16:44:17 +0000 http://www.janeherlong.com/?p=4539 Flip-Flops happen; some are large events and other episodes are flat-out annoying.  In honor of my new book, Rhinestones on My Flip-Flops, that will be released September 2017, I thought I would share a unique flip-flop event that involves a limo with a very nervous driver…enjoy! Have you ever had a moment when you made […]

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Flip-Flops happen; some are large events and other episodes are flat-out annoying.  In honor of my new book, Rhinestones on My Flip-Flops, that will be released September 2017, I thought I would share a unique flip-flop event that involves a limo with a very nervous driver…enjoy!


Have you ever had a moment when you made a decision to be in the “driver’s seat?”

I am speaking figuratively, of course, but several years ago, I was literally put into this position.

I was speaking in Flint, Michigan and was told that a car service would be picking me up.  I stood on the curb for over an hour and realized that something was wrong.  I was scheduled to speak only hours after landing so needless to say, I was getting concerned.  I called the client, who owned the car service, and he said the driver was on the way.  I could tell he was concerned as well, so I reassured him not to worry.  “I will be there,” I said.  “Whatever it takes.”  Those words would turn out to be very profound.

Only minutes later, a brand new, black, stretch limo made its way to baggage claim.  Out of the car jumped a cute young girl who repeatedly apologized for her tardiness. “I am so sorry,” she lamented.  “I thought the memo said 5 o’clock.  The ink was faded and made the “3” look like a”5”.  “Please forgive me,” She continued.  “I just had a baby and I need this job.”

The nervous young woman was clearly having a bad day but it got worse. As she pulled away from the curb,  she maneuvered that limo way too close to the folks who were waiting in the cab line.  I gripped the seat, said a prayer, and buckled up!

Thankfully, the drive on the interstate was calm and so was my driver.  Then, out of nowhere, a tractor-trailer truck pulled in front of us.  To our disbelief, a large part of the tire became loose, flew into the air and landed on the limo.

My driver pulled into an exit.  We ran to the front of the car to inspect the damage.  Then, she lost it; I mean she was hysterical. The grill had a massive piece of rubber lodged from left to right.  It was stuck. I don’t think Superman could have removed it.

While the driver was falling apart, I had to take control of the situation.  “Get in the back,” I commanded.  “I’m driving.”

Yep, that’s what I did.  I got into the driver’s seat of that stretch limo and drove to the hotel where I was speaking.

Pulling into the hotel portico, the look on the meeting planner’s face was priceless. Later he and I laughed about the situation and I reminded him that I was true to my word… whatever it takes.

The point is that there are times when you have to take control and literally drive your own “limo” or step into an uncomfortable role.

Share this story with those who need a laugh and some encouragement. You maydrive them to take action!


Thank you SWEET Joy Schmitt for your BEAUTIFUL testimonial!

“MHIMA had the opportunity to enjoy Jane during our 2017 annual meeting.  Jane takes commitment to a new level.  With her humor,  stories and songs she reminds us all to push forward and be your own person;  rejoice in your journey,  reflect on the trials,  celebrate the triumphs and never forget it all.  The laughs shared throughout the presentation were a clear indication on her connection to the audience.”

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And The Winner Is… http://www.janeherlong.com/and-the-winner-is/ Thu, 20 Apr 2017 16:45:08 +0000 http://www.janeherlong.com/?p=4499 I was new to the world of pageantry. Interview always grabbed my interest until my pageant coach (yes, they exist, especially in the South) asked me the unthinkable. “Jane,” he said. “Who should win this pageant?” My brain and mouth froze. Seeing the look on my face, my coach challenged me and asked, “Why are […]

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I was new to the world of pageantry. Interview always grabbed my interest until my pageant coach (yes, they exist, especially in the South) asked me the unthinkable. “Jane,” he said. “Who should win this pageant?” My brain and mouth froze. Seeing the look on my face, my coach challenged me and asked, “Why are you here? Do you want to be the winner or not?”

I made the decision to be a winner…at life.


I remember my first competition as a newbie to the pageant scene. I was invited to compete in the Flowertown Festival in Summerville, SC. At the time, I was not a seasoned pageant girl and the other contestants were polished young women who were competing in the Miss South Carolina Pageant in just a few weeks. I knew my chances of winning or placing were slim but there was another title to win, Miss Congeniality.

When the awards were announced, I was named the Flowertown Festival, Miss Congeniality. And here is how it happened; I asked Miss Lexington to vote for me and I voted for myself.  

Someone told me a story about a pageant with twenty contestants competing and the vote for Miss Congeniality was a twenty-way tie. The contestants had to vote again—for two girls they wanted to be Miss Congeniality. After the second vote, they had a winner.

I learned that if you want to win in life, you have to outrageously believe in yourself. Basically, you vote for yourself.
So I ask you: “Do you want to win or not? Do you want to land your dream job? Do you want to achieve your personal best?” If your answer is YES then believe in yourself, work hard and pray. And believe this; all things are possible.

Pass this on to those who need to vote for themselves and believe they can achieve their personal BEST!

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