Posts tagged "Attitude"

Change Your Life With Amazing Acts Of Kindness

Do you remember this story that was printed in the Tampa Bay Times?

In August of 2014, almost 400 people who visited a St. Petersburg, Fla., Starbucks got a break from the daily grind thanks to a woman who paid for the caramel macchiato ordered by the stranger behind her at 7 a.m. This random act of kindness kick started a pay-it-forward chain that lasted until 6 p.m., according to the Tampa Bay Times. By early evening, 378 people had picked up another person’s coffee tab.

Linda Cohen is the author of a wonderful book entitled, 1,000 Mitzvahs: How Small acts of Kindness Can Heal, Inspire and Change Your Life. Based on her blog highlighting 1,000 Mitzvahs (good deeds) written in memory of her father, Linda shares the many ways in which one person can touch the lives of others.

Here are two wonderful quotes from 1,000 Mitzvahs:

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Read Your Choice on How to View Life

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I was very taken with this poem on our perspective of life that Thomas shared with me. It is your choice how to view life. You will be inspired by the wisdom in this writing. How do you look at your life?

Today was absolutely the worse day ever.

And don’t try to convince me that

There is something good in every day.

Because when you take a closer look,

This world is a pretty evil place.

Even if

Some goodness does shine through once in a while

Satisfaction and happiness don’t last.

And it’s not true that

It’s all in the mind and heart

Because true happiness can be obtained

Only if one’s surroundings are good

It’s not true that good exist

I am sure you can agree

That

Posted in attitude, encouragement, inspiration by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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Beauty Pageant World … Humor in the ER

Miss Sc png“Just when you think the worst is over…” I told my audience at Ashley River Baptist Church concerning my last 24-hours of stress. I tried to make the events sound funny and stress what a great job I did handling issues. Little did I know that the events to come in “pageant world” would make the last 24 hours seem “blah” … proving once again that life is all about your attitude.

I was on my way to celebrate pageant week.  All of us queens from yester-year gussied up for a blast from the past if even for a few seconds of walking and waving on the stage.  Reminds me of this plaque someone gave me that makes me laugh:

“We can’t all be the queen.  Some of you have to sit on the curb and wave as I go by.”

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Future Farmers of America- Amazing Leaders

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This past week I was honored to recapture my unforgettable experience of speaking for the National Future Farmers of America last October in Louisville, KY.  I spoke for South Carolina FFA and Alabama FFA entitling my speech, “Don’t Throw Tomatoes at my Field of Dreams.”  As always, these young people are set apart from the stereo-type of modern day youth.

I started my speech by saying that they are coined “Millennials” and I had both good news and bad news about their generation.

“There are 80 million of you and you are called Millennials.  Most of you were born between 1980 and the year 2000.Time magazine published a story in May of 2013 titled “The Me Me Me Generation,” it begins: “They’re narcissistic. They’re lazy. They’re coddled. They’re even a bit delusional. Those aren’t just unfounded negative stereotypes; they’re backed up by a decade of sociological research. ” Here is the good news.  Here are a few exceptions to this research; small town kids, children reared on a farm and immigrants.”

Posted in youth, youth advice by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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The Death of Common Sense

Is common sense dead? Those of us who have common sense understand that common sense is not common at all. You cannot get it from books; I know folks with relatively no formal education that have a PhD in common sense.Why is it that……

On a plastic dry-cleaning bag you read:  THIS IS NOT A TOY.

Liquid Draino’s directions….DO NOT DRINK

We yell at our children to stop yelling…

The host of the Bachelor appears at the Rose Ceremony with one rose left and says, “There is one rose left.”

Or we feel sorry for the contestant on Fear Factor who cries while eating Cow brains with worms.

We listen to President speak at the State of the Union Address and afterwards we are told what he said.

We watch the Super Bowl for the commercials.

The robber who is caught on video stealing pleads innocent.

The peaceful Muslim religion is killing and rioting due to a cartoonist portrayal of Muhammad.  Jesus has been slammed for years.

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Women Need Girlfriends

“Don't forget your sisters,” she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. “They'll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them.  Remember that 'sisters' means ALL the women.... your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives, too. You'll need other women. Women always do.”A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter…

“Don’t forget your sisters,” she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass. “They’ll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them.  Remember that ‘sisters’ means ALL the women…. your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives, too. You’ll need other women. Women always do.”

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Attitude is Everything When it Comes to Selling a Wedding Dress

Five months and seven bridal shops later, we had experienced a multitude of bridal consultant personalities:  the snob, the way-too-excited, the nervous giggler, and the “I-told-you-so”diva. Attitude is everything when it comes to living life; attitude is also everything when it comes to selling someone a wedding dress.Little girls dream of this day; walking down a flower-laden isle decorated with pink rose petals. Trumpet Volunteer heralds the bride’s journey to meet the man of her dreams. Ahhh, romance …

Snap out of it. It’s all about the dress, Cinderella!

Our sweet daughter Caroline called with the grand announcement of her boyfriend/ fiancé’s perfect proposal. We knew it was coming.

So our quest for the perfect wedding dress began. The first bridal shop was one of those trendy boutiques with only one short name. Those places scare me because they sound expensive. We were greeted with a perky smile and a glass of champagne. The attitude seemed right at first but … Red flag! I should have chugged the adult beverage before celebrating the little white tags with the great big prices.

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Holidays with the Ho, Ho, Ho’s

funny_turkey_picture-1Having the ability to laugh at yourself is a gift, especially at the Holidays.  God help those who don’t know how.

One of the best gifts we can give ourselves is permission to laugh; especially when you can laugh at yourself.  Even better, allow a good hardy snort every now and again.

A few years ago, I was speaking at an after dinner Holiday  banquet.  The gentleman in charge stood up before my introduction and made this statement:

“Before I introduce our speaker, I would like for all the ho’s to stand. Let’s show our ho’s how much we love them!”

I could not believe my ears. Then he continued. “Is the head ho here?” This nice looking woman stood and just beamed. Suddenly, a friend of mine at the head table got in my face and said with pride, “I was the head ho last year.”

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My Ta-Tas Fell on 9/11; Breast Cancer Awareness

My sister had breast cancer.  It was a shock to all us since this was a first for the women in the family.  The one thing that I observed as my sister dealt with this aggressive form of breast cancer was her ability to laugh and have a positive attitude. The title of this post is an actual quote from my sister, “My Ta-Tas Fell on 9/11.” Since this is Breast Cancer Awareness Month I wanted to share her story.

My sister had breast cancer.  It was a shock to all of us since this was a first for the women in the family.  The one thing that I observed as my sister dealt with this aggressive form of breast cancer was her ability to laugh and have a positive attitude. The title of this post is an actual quote from my sister, “My Ta-Tas Fell on 9/11.” Since this is Breast Cancer Awareness Month I wanted to share her story.

My sister decided to have both breasts removed since one was “positive” and the other was “busy”, (hyperplasia).  I stayed with her after her surgery and saw what she had to deal with.  What was upsetting to me was the fact that she decided to stop having mammograms which led to her diagnosis. Had she continued to have her screenings, the calcification stage would have been detected before breast cancer developed. However, she was a trouper and I am convinced that her attitude made the difference.  I remember she was listening to the song, “I Will Survive” as they wheeled her into the operating room when she had her double mastectomy.

Posted in attitude, breast cancer, Breast Cancer Awareness, Ta-tas by Jane Jenkins Herlong.
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Life’s not Fair…Think About the Ta-tas

If I had a dollar for every time I said this to my children, I would be "sittin' pretty." You, too? How do you explain to a crying young child that this is what to expect FOREVER. Things will happen that just are not good or fair or right. Call is what you will. I say LIFE 101. This is the second lesson I mention in my book, "What Ta-Tas Teach Us," that life is not fair.If I had a dollar for every time I said, “life’s not fair,” to my children, I would be “sittin’ pretty.”  You, too?  How do you explain to a crying young child that this is what to expect FOREVER.  Things will happen that just are not good or fair or right.   This is the second lesson I mention in my book, “What Ta-Tas Teach Us,” that life’s not fair.

I would sit behind girls in class and envy their wide bra straps and count how many hooks they had.  I thought about the one pitiful, little hook I used to fasten my brassiere. The quicker you learn it the better off you are; life’s not fair.  Call it what you will; LIFE 101 is one of my favorite expressions.

Life is Not Fair

Life is not fair because people are imperfect and our world is flawed. “What Ta-Tas Teach Us.” Here is a bit of humor to illustrate how to handle life’s unfair circumstances.

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